I wanted to delete these photos as soon as I saw them.
On Saturday I want to grab a couple more “professional” type headshots of myself instead of the selfies I have on my website. My step daughter was there and knows how to use my camera, I was dolled up to go out that night and my background was still setup from my session that morning. Perfect. Hailey followed my directions perfectly.
Then I looked at the back of my camera.
My eyes look crazy and the right eye is smaller than the left.
My hair is frizzy as hell.
What color EVEN is my hair?! Dishwater? I need to go blonder or go back to brunette.
That stupid tooth!
I’m at least 20 pounds, let’s be real, 40 pounds heavier than I want to be right now.”
ALL OF THAT WENT THROUGH MY HEAD! What?! You know what’s even more dumb than saying it in your head? I said it out loud to a couple friends when I showed them the pictures that night. Do you think they agreed with me?! NO! They couldn’t have been kinder and said they looked really nice. Exactly what I would say if someone showed me a photo of themselves.
So why do we say these things to ourselves? So I’m ignoring all that self-hate talk and posting the photos. What a dumb reason not to take a photo of myself, because one tooth as moved a little and because of the color of my NATURAL hair! I’m not looking for someone to tell me I’m pretty. I just want to share that we ALL do this and not to forget to compliment someone. You never know how it will make them feel. Plus, when we say these things out loud to ourselves with our daughters, step daughters, nieces, around that gives them permission to say the same things about themselves. Let’s change the “beauty standards”!
Last weekend I was waiting in line to use the bathroom at a bar and complimented a girl on her shirt. She was NOT expecting that. :) #loveyourself #beyourbiggestfan Even when it takes a little extra try.
You are beautiful.
You are smart.
What you’re doing is important.
Nice butt! ;)
Additionally, five minutes after wanting to delete those, I took this selfie and loved it. Strange fact: we are personally more inclined to like the mirror image of our face because that’s what we’re used to seeing in front-camera selfies and in the mirror.